Majority of the tech savvy folks may feel overwhelmed by the opportunities the technology is bringing. With just few clicks, they can make payments for their football tickets or deposit their money with the available android applications just by sitting on their sofa. Life seems so easy when each one of them holds a smartphone in his hands; desperately trying to sort out the best apps in the market. However, the promises that these smartphones are bringing in tend to have some effects in the relationships we have within our families.
A few months back in Kathmandu, I got a chance to sit among my grandmothers. Spending some time with them made me cheerful as they talked about their golden days. Slowly, their gaffe caught my attention when they began to complain how the current generation is beginning to forget the family bond that was highly valued in the past.
We are all aware of the intricate relationships we have within our families. It is one of the exemplary characteristics of Nepali. Our relations spread within two or more families. All sort of typical names come out when we meet people who are very distant to us. The love we share among each other is so deeprooted that failing to contact them in a long time compels them to complain about our aloofness to our parents. After listening to a long lecture, it becomes the only time when we rush to search for their contacts and pretend to ask about their whereabouts.
Most of us are contempt that our addiction to the social networking sites has brought us ever closer to our friends. We are thankful that the text messages get delivered instantaneously. However, we overlook the fact it is causing to the way we prioritise our social relationships.
We have so many of our families’ contacts on our mobile phones. But, it is surprising to know that we rarely phone them. It is not that we do not phone them but the frequency is far less than the ones we call our friends. Bonds between our families directly affect the status of our own family and stay with us for the rest of our life. What I am emphasizing is that the frequency we call to our families and close relatives should increase. We should phone every family members on our contact list at least once in a week. It strengthens the bond we have with them.
|Have we lost our family time?|
The way we are giving less priority to maintaining the family relationships does not illustrate a typical characteristic of Nepali. We value relationships more than anything. It occurs to me that the unique hospitality we have must have originated from our commitment to maintaining family relationships. But, the culture we have developed in our homes depict an alien relationship. We care less about what our parents are discussing as we immerse ourselves in sorting out the statuses that will get our likes. It is not genuine to get completely absorbed in our apps as the guests get served in the dining room. It is not just the way we are. Questions get raised at the way we depict ourselves and it will throw questions at the we have been raised to our distant families.
It is necessary to keep in touch with our families all the time. Also, we have to make sure that they are getting more attention than the amount of time we give to check the number of comments or likes we have got for the recent status we posted. And we should not just keep the family contacts for messaging only but to have a talk as well.